May is National Masturbation Month ( I know its almost November )— and no, we’re not kidding. There’s an actual month dedicated to solo pleasure. While it may spark a giggle (or an awkward glance), it’s also the perfect time to open up a conversation many people still tiptoe around: masturbation.
Let’s be real — everyone’s doing it, has done it, or is at least thinking about it. Masturbation is a normal, healthy, and often very enjoyable part of human sexuality. It’s not dirty, shameful, or something only teenagers or “lonely people” do. It’s actually a powerful form of self-care — one that comes with a surprising number of physical, emotional, and relational benefits.
So, put on your curious cap (and maybe dim the lights), and let’s talk about why touching yourself isn’t just okay — it’s actually pretty fantastic.
Quick History Lesson: Why May?
National Masturbation Month was launched in 1995 after sex-positive pioneer Dr. Joycelyn Elders was fired from her role as U.S. Surgeon General for suggesting that masturbation be included in sex education. That’s right — fired for advocating solo pleasure as a healthy topic for discussion.
So, in honor of that moment and all the hands-on healing that followed, May became the month to destigmatize the most natural of pastimes.
The (Actual) Benefits of Masturbation
Besides being a great way to kill time without leaving the house, masturbation has real benefits backed by science:
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Stress Relief
Orgasm releases a cocktail of feel-good chemicals like dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins — aka, the ultimate internal spa day. -
Improved Sleep
A little solo session before bed can help you drift off faster than counting sheep ever could. -
Better Mood
Masturbation isn’t just about release — it can lift your spirits, regulate your mood, and help decrease symptoms of anxiety and depression. -
Boosted Body Awareness
When you explore your own body, you learn what you like. That’s gold when it comes to communicating your needs with a partner later on. -
Enhanced Sexual Function
Regular self-stimulation can improve arousal, lubrication, and orgasmic response. Like any good system — use it or lose it. -
Pain Management
Some people find that masturbation can help relieve menstrual cramps, tension headaches, or pelvic pain. Who needs ibuprofen when you have an orgasm?
But Is It Normal?
Yes. Yes. And one more time for the people in the back: Yes.
Masturbation is not only normal — it’s nearly universal. People of all genders, orientations, ages (within healthy developmental ranges), and relationship statuses masturbate.
Even people in committed relationships masturbate — and that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with their sex life. In fact, solo pleasure can enhance partnered sex.
Busting the Myths
Let’s debunk a few classics:
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“It’ll make you go blind.”
Nope. Not even if you do it with the lights off. -
“It’s only for people who aren’t getting any.”
False. Masturbation is about self-love, not desperation. -
“It’s sinful or shameful.”
Healthy sexuality is not immoral. Shame, not pleasure, is the real thief of joy.
🔄 Self-Love is Full Circle
Whether you call it self-love, solo play, stress relief, or your “me time,” masturbation is a personal and powerful practice. It connects you to your body, reduces shame, and supports emotional and sexual health.
And remember: talking about masturbation doesn’t have to be taboo. In fact, embracing the conversation — even with a little laughter — helps break down the shame walls that block so many people from fully experiencing sexual wellness.
Closing Thoughts
This month, consider this your permission slip to get curious about your own pleasure — no judgment, no pressure. Whether you’re a regular explorer or still figuring things out, masturbation is one way to honor your body, regulate your mind, and deepen your relationship with… you.
So go ahead — give yourself a hand. You deserve it.
-According to LaShonda
LaShonda Henderson, Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Sex Therapist (Under Supervision)